Saturday, April 6, 2019

Toxic Relationship

       
           I couldn't have any space in my heart for anything else, everything belongs to her. I water her like a rose and adore her like a god. Loving her is everything I have ever dreamt about. Looking at her eyes gives me this unexplained feeling. My heart fills with joy, happiness, and hope. Yeah! You read it right ’HOPE.’ How I wish I have it all, I'm still missing something. I looked at all the crannies of my heart but I couldn't find it and that is eating up the love I have for her. I understand I can't have it all but sometimes, the lacking aspect can be unbearable. Before I met her, everything was rosy for me and I think I'm capable of picking a wife which I did. I embraced her with love, I made her have everything she wanted. She made me know everything about lady's things because she is used to wearing the most expensive things. She is very romantic, especially when she makes me feel good with her tongue, she is just irresistible when it comes to that. I used to think maybe God tutored her on how to use her tongue for a pleasurable moment like the one she gives me. After two years of marriage, I noticed I'm not that buoyant financially as I used to be. That was the beginning of our problem. If you remember I stated I was lacking something in my relationship; that thing is ’understanding’ my woman never understands. I shared my story with Realwithkem, let's read from her.

Sometimes, people get into a relationship to compensate for what they are lacking which makes the love conditional. These set of people will love their partners as long they are still meeting up their needs and this is a freeway to a toxic relationship. For real, I used the word ’toxic’ because the relationship will definitely explode by the time you stop what is holding the marriage together and when it does it will be harmful and disastrous. How do you know if a relationship is toxic? Good! This is when your partner will not even plan a future with you, she will never discuss how to be successful with you. She won't have any long term goals for both of you, instead, she want to take from you to fill in what she is lacking then you know you are in a toxic relationship.
I will rest my pen here. Watch out for Next write up on how to get out of Toxic Relationship. Continue to get Realwithkem

Saturday, March 23, 2019

How did I get Here?❤️❤️


” It seemed dark but  I could still see by straining my eyes. I could also hear myself talk. I wasn't  sure if my mind was at peace or in pieces. I wasn't  supposed to be alone but it appeared I was by myself. I tried stretching out my arms but I couldn't, I wanted to run, it was not possible; Then, I knew I was stuck in a box. How did I get here? Seeing her pictures, I could still remember I loved her. I decided to do everything to make her mine. I showered her with love and affection. I let her had a way in the relationship. I thought I was enjoying all that love game but I never knew I was making a box to be locked in. She played along until I got myself locked-in. Then she backed off. How can I free myself from the box of love?”

It can be frustrating to be locked up somewhere but the power to be free is within you. First, think of how you get there; In most cases, we get to a wrong place through the weakest aspect of our life. You need to strengthen that weakest aspect of your life before thinking of setting yourself free. Secondly, you can't set yourself free all alone, you need a backup; for real! And you  have to be careful who you choose for your backup. 
Lastly, make sure you are ready for the setting free battle because there must be no turning back after  starting it, which means, you must finish it or else the battle will finish you. Let's always be Realwithkem

Saturday, March 9, 2019

Memories of Love ๐Ÿ’•


     It was difficult to believe she has lived on this planet for 78 years. Her smile added to her beauty. I only said ’Hi’;  pay attention to what she said ”Hi, I had a good life. He took me everywhere we never left each other. He treated me like a queen. He loved me dearly. I had a good life. He made my life worth living and I was happy to be his wife.” I asked her ’Do you have his pictures?’ She said, ”No, I don't.” I asked her ’what is his name?’ Then, she smiled and started brainstorming, she said ”I forgot my husband’s name.” For real! I was touched. Yeah! I was really emotional after I heard the woman’s love life story. The old lady has an Alzheimer disease which  causes memory loss. The disease makes her forget her husband's name but the Alzheimer disease never eat up the good memory she built with her husband. The memory lives in her forever. 
  As we age, we neglect material things, we never care about the latest outfits or the ongoing party around us but we live in our memories. Here is my question; what memory do you want to live in as you age? Here is a take-home; it is advisable to live a good life with loved ones, enjoy your love life.  Don't keep bad memories like arguing always, quarrelling all the time, nagging, complaining. Do you know something? A relationship is like a wrapped gift that you never knew what you are getting until you unwrap it. Believe it or not, whatever you see from the wrapping package is what you get. So, you either stop complaining and learn how to adjust to your new gift which is your relationship or you do a rethink at the appropriate/suitable time. Make life meaningful and enjoy it. This applies to My gorgeous living singles, you can create your interesting and unforgettable memories for yourself. Make good friends and enjoy your freedom of being single.
What do you think? Let's always get Realwithkem!

Saturday, February 23, 2019

Unbearable Pain of Love❤️


  I never knew a heart can be chopped into  pieces until I felt mine bleeding. I could feel the internal pain of love. I couldn't think straight nor delete any of our memories. The world felt so cold, everywhere seemed dark. I could feel my emptiness. I could feel blood running through my spines. Everything was just wrong. 
Now I know why all this words are four letters; Love, Hate, Pain. Yeah! The pain of love is just unbearable. I asked if he loved me and he said yes. I thought I got it but I was wrong. Yeah! How can a humanbeing be heartless? I can still hear the voice in my ears saying; ’Babe, I thought I love you but I searched my mind, I couldn't find your love in my heart.’ Oh my God! I was shocked, I was dead with my eyes  open. I couldn't say a word. God! What have I done wrong or where have I gone wrong? 
I am truly a good person. Then I opened up to Realwithkem, this is what she says;
’The origin of love is about learning how to love yourself first before loving someone else. You can't give what you do not have. Check your heart and be sure you have enough love for yourself before taking a ride for love. Make yourself someone anyone can spend the rest of his/her life with, not you searching for someone to spend your life with. Make sure you are adding value to yourself every day. The only thing you can control in life is you. Not him/her. The only human being you know is you.  Not him/her. Make yourself an investor, not the business to be invested in. Practicing all this will make you strong and prepared for any storm in a relationship. Do not get me wrong, you will definitely be hit with the storm when it comes but the built-in love you have for yourself will sustain you during and after the storm. Your investment will put you back in shape to be prepared for any incoming love. Hint! Never give up on love, you can't live all by yourself; you need someone to lean on. Just never be too desperate seeking for love, focus on yourself and stay open to welcome incoming love๐Ÿ˜œ.’
Always Get Realwithkem ๐Ÿ˜˜


Saturday, February 9, 2019

Valentine❤️๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜

 
  ๐Ÿ•บ๐Ÿ‘ซ I am excited because it is a Valentine season and my man promised to Put a smile on me. For Real Fans! He wants me to tell him anything that will make me happy. Hmmmm๐Ÿค”. Then I thought of this question which I will like great contributions from you all.
Can a man please his woman? Let's get Realwithkem and make this fun๐Ÿ˜œ๐Ÿ˜œ๐Ÿ˜œ

Saturday, January 26, 2019

How to handle a Crush part 2


            You may be happily married and still have crush over him/her๐Ÿ˜œ. For real! It is not a big deal. Here are some tips if you don't want to; 
If you can avoid seeing that person please do. If it is someone you cannot avoid owing to the job-related circumstance, then always act normal when you are with him/her by taking a deep breath. You can also get yourself busy with what you love doing in order to take your mind off your crush. You can also get a journal, write your feelings down and also write why your dream concerning your crush can't be possible. For instance, he may be short/too tall, he may be poor/ too rich for you. Finally, keep telling your brain not to think about it because you do not want to get into such mess. For real! It can be a mess up. The good news is that you can control your mind and brain. The word ’Love’ is not reality in itself but we make it real,  so you can wish it off. Your eyes communicate with your brain what they see and your mind tells your brain that is your crush then your brain program it and keep working on it on your behalf. Unless you really want to have a fling๐Ÿ™ˆ, Yeah! I Don't know about that ๐Ÿคท‍♀, you are old enough to do what you are capable of and to be ready for the consequences if there is any. 
Fan! Always get Realwithkem๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜


Saturday, January 19, 2019

How to handle a Crush part 1๐Ÿ˜”

   
  The feel of a crush can either be  positive or negative. It can also be exciting because you feel happy when you are around the person. Thinking of your crush can make you smile and breathe in fresh air. You look forward to giving him a lovely smile with a sexy body language. For real! A crush can also be terrifying. It can be a battle within you which may be due to you being married, engaged or your crush being in  a relationship ๐Ÿ˜ณ. 
Few things are involved in this crush situation. First, search your heart to find out why you are having a crush over this person. You may be having a crush due to your bad relationship, you may be single or maybe he/she is cute๐Ÿ˜œ. If the crush is due to being in a bad relationship  then you need to get out from the bad relationship first because it is simply called unfinished business which can put both of you in a mess. You can now search your heart to see if you are still having the same feelings towards this person after getting out of the bad relationship and if you still feel the same, then go for it๐Ÿ™ˆ. Yeah! Turn your flirt on and make the first move if you can. For real! If you really want something you go for it. Here are steps to get his/her attention. First, make your feelings known to him/her by mimicking his body language whenever you are in a conversation. For instance, if he leans on a wall just do the same thing with a smile and make eyes contact. But remember not to act desperately and don't try too hard. You may be lucky to catch him/her๐Ÿ˜œ. If he/she doesn't want you, it's okay, at least you
 tried. Just move on and get over it. There are lots of crushes out there for you. Just keep working on your self and never stop adding values to yourself. ( Watch out!!! For part 2!!!๐Ÿ˜˜) Never stop getting Realwithkem๐Ÿ˜˜

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