Friday, December 22, 2017

A Home of Your Own


           “There are no seats nor comfortable bed to rest myself or relax my soul. I even looked around to see if I could found anything to put things together but I couldn’t. I could still remember it was  a walking path, I actually saw people stopping for a break but I realized it belongs to everyone. I took a deep breath just to clear my head and think πŸ€”. Yeah! I did a thorough thinking. Then I came to the conclusion that where I am presently is called a ‘place not a home.’ A place is a particular position or point in space, which means in a relationship, we can only build a foundation of love in our home not our place. There are relationships that are misinterpreted to be a home instead of a place. Mere seeing the relationship, you will just identify it to be a place because you won’t find anything that makes you feel comfortable or anyway you can put off your loads and take a rest. All you will see in a place relationship is just a space, empty but you will forever hear the word ‘I love you’ yeah!  That is easy to say. Believe me, no matter what you can do, you can never make a place a home in a relationship. On the other hand, a home is the place where one lives permanently, especially as a member of a family or household; For real, you will feel welcome in a homey  relationship. You will find a place to put your loads & packages. You will feel acceptable and valued and then you can decide if you want to build your  garden of love in your home. Do you know something? Never build a garden of love in place because it will be demolished by different people passing by and most importantly, it doesn’t belong to you.”
What do you think? Let’s get Realwithkem 

Friday, December 15, 2017

Battle of Love


              It was a struggle, lots of commotion and echo of war. The wind πŸ’¨ seems wicked and nearly blew off my spirit of love ❤. I can also see the future ahead of me which looks bright but I have to get into this battle field before I can get to the future. Now I got nervous because I saw myself staggering and brainstorming on what to do. Should I face the battle or not? I’m not even sure if it worth fighting for. There is one thing I know vividly that not all battles must be fought but any battle fought with sword of love can be conquered. I also realized something; in most cases true love hide in between puds and it is possible to get hurt trying to reach it but the good thing is that you won’t feel the pain because it is a wound that will surly be healed with the love you have with you. True love comes with prices, sacrifices, consequences, commitments and determination. Just a few things I’m sure I need to do after brainstorming; first, make my choices , and ask myself if I’m ready for the consequences of my choices and finally aim for it. Here is my question; DO YOU THINK IT MAKES SENSE TO FIGHT THE BATTLE OF LOVE? Get Realwithkem!

Saturday, December 9, 2017

Journey of Love


      I took a peek at the path and the only thing I could see was the beginning which looked beautiful. Yeah! Rosy with beautiful flowers 🌺 🌹 🌸. Me and myself prepared for the journey, I then realized ‘myself’ is my guiding angel, my personalities and all the necessary equipment to walk through the journey. I was excited to start taking steps, then I realized I couldn't walk through the journey alone; that I needed somebody to lift me up when I might be down or to talk with when I might be lonely. That was when I paused and sat down to talk to my guiding angel and she said ‘I would meet different people along the journey. Some would come to prepare me for the journey as to make me strong, some would come to play with me just to keep me going and some would be drawn to me because of my personalities or equipment built in me. Also remember! As you go along this journey, you are picking up packages πŸ“¦ and letting go some qualities in you just to survive that moment.’ Hnmmmmm! Wow! Really! Then I asked my guiding angel the signs to look for when I reach my destination, she said ‘One of the signs is the partner that off loads all the packages you have and also he will make you feel at home. Do you know what? There is no end to the journey, because when you finally get to that last partner,  with him you are in another world entirely and you will find love, peace, rest and comfort that guide you to prepare for the everlasting life.’  Interesting, here is the last statement she said ‘Some people can be blessed to meet their life partner at the beginning of the journey but unfortunately can get careless and let him/her go.....sad!’ This is when I realized the journey is journey of love.

Friday, December 1, 2017

Lost Love ❤️

  “  I just knew that was him, yeah! When I heard his voice for the first time, something in me whispered to my ear πŸ‘‚ and says ‘ he is your destiny’ the part of your life that has been gone, the body you are being made out of, the seed of your happiness, the one that will fix your heart that has been broken, the breeze of joy your soul have been craving for’ after I heard all these from my inner self, i felt the chemistry and connection. Yeah! Then I knew, my sorrow is over, my heart is healed. I felt completed and my soul was at rest. I have Peace in me, yeah I think I’m in love with him. I am falling deep into him and nothing could hold me back. My eyes were closed and I was deeply enjoying the momentum of my falling into him. 
I will feel accomplished if he catches me and makes me fall into him. Yeah! Unfortunately, the love is planted in the wrong place, wait a minute! Do you think πŸ€” there is anything like finding love in a wrong place? I have my answer which is ‘No’ because destiny can never be change and what will be will definitely come to pass. You know what, you can still give me your opinions.”
Get Realwithkem!

Friday, November 24, 2017

Love & wants

          “Thank goodness I never believed in love anyway. My heart is too fragile and I will never let any man break it because I may not survive it when that happens. To be honest with you, my man loves me and he spoiled me with everything. He will do anything for my happiness. Maybe he is doing all this because he is a pastor, or because all what God wants from him is to love me and I’m just to respect him. Wow! That is easy to do, all I want is to be loved and taken care of and I will respect him. But wait a minute! Do you think you can respect your man if you don’t love him? Yeah! I purposely asked that question because I can remember my first boyfriend that took care of me with his money and showered me with love; he didn’t get any respect back from me because, I cannot just respect him. We quarrel everyday and I never care to let go everything he is doing for me. I tried to do what The Bible wants me to do by just respecting him but it didn’t happen. Big difference with my present guy, I can see myself respecting him and never want to hurt him because he is a darling. He can spend is life on me, wow! My guy is loaded with money 😘😘😘. Now, here is my concern, why will God want me not to love my man but just to respect him in return of his love to me?”
Realwithkem πŸ‘‰πŸ½

Friday, November 17, 2017

Sex & Love πŸ’•


        “‘Sex is not good for your health, it will shorten your life’ πŸ‘ˆπŸ»πŸ‘ˆπŸ»πŸ‘ˆπŸ»Boom!! That was what my doctor told me. Unbelievable, really! I will rather die than not to make him happy. Do you know something? Staying away from sex is not even about me but my man. Unfortunately, my doctor said I have health issues and that I should stay away from sex. I love my man and I’m not ready to loose him. 
I actually came up with a plan but didn’t tell him yet, just feel like sharing it on this forum before spitting it out to him. I am thinking about telling my man to go get a girlfriend in other to make up for our sex life; I’m doing this because I love this man and I care about him. Do you guys have any suggestion concerning this matter?” 
 Get Realwithkem😘

Friday, November 10, 2017

The Burning Desire

        “‘It is burning in me, the fire πŸ”₯ refuses to stop. I can’t sleep 😴, all I see is him in my dream. The feeling is beyond my explanation, honestly, it seems I’m going crazy. I talked to myself about him. It is real, the love is real! I have never felt this way before. He is my life partner, my mind and thoughts.’ That is me talking to my pillow about my love, my heart ❤, he is everything to me. I needed to talk to someone or something about him because I’m going crazy. I kept him away from friends for a long time because I just didn’t know where things went wrong with my other  relationship. Unfortunately, I just couldn’t contain this fire of love that is burning in me anymore. I decided to tell my ‘neighborhood brother’  who's my mentor about him. Yeah! Then I felt better. One day,  my mentor told me about the terrible dream he had; he said my love will  hurt my feelings and dump me in future; OMG! I cried and couldn’t stop because I never wanted to get hurt again. I stopped seeing my love but I carried the pain everywhere. You won’t believe my supposed mentor came to me  and asked me out; wooo!! Really! Hnmmmm life is evil. My "neighborhood brother" said he has been hiding the feeling he has towards me for a long time but  he couldn’t do it any more. I’m just short of words and frustrated. I’m not getting it! What do you think?”
Now to the house, the lady needs your opinion, just be Realwithkem.

Friday, November 3, 2017

Sex & Love

      “I don’t think this is right, for real 😳 It is wrong. If you love me, you won’t ask me for sex just a few weeks after we met. Hnmmmmm, I can’t just figure it out. What is going on with guys these days. Love is all about sex, I’m not sure if the trend is the same back in the day. At least, is a good idea to first know and understand the girl before requesting for sex. Wait a minute! Do you think I’m wrong?  I can still remember when I was young and I used to over hear my brothers that were married complaining about their wives not being good in bed. My brothers also used to say, due to their status they couldn't have girlfriend to make up; 😜😜yeah! I understand no one wants to talk about that on this forum but it’s okay. But to be honest with you, he is an handsome guy, polite and lovely. I won’t lie to you, I actually fell for him right away. I thought we should be friend for at least five months before asking me for sex. After being friend for two months, he asked "can you come sleep over at my house" ding ding! My response was ‘No’ and I was upset. I don’t think he is real, he is just after my body. Do you want me to be honest with you? I want the same thing he wants, I’m just nervous not to rush things and also my friends usually say ‘don’t give your body for a man in a rush because he will never value you.’ Do you think what my friends say is true or not?
I don’t know, can you get Realwithkem and put things right for me please?”

Just be Realwithkem 😘😘

Friday, October 27, 2017



      “I thought I was loosing it when I heard ‘I love you’. Wow! Really? It’s not possible to love me on the first day you set your eyes on me. I won’t fall for that crap. This guy didn’t even know me or have an idea of who I am. Seriously! That was a turned off for me, I never wanted to talk to him thereafter or pick his call. Would you like to know the funniest part of the story? Hummmmn, I can’t stop thinking of him but unfortunately, have deleted his number out of anger.

One beautiful Sunday morning, I stepped out of my car to bump into a tall, handsome man. The smell of his cologne made me look once more at him. You won’t believe what I saw! That young guy was my crush that I deleted his number. I just didn’t  know what to say to him, he looked at me and smiled. The young man didn’t say a word to me, he actually walked away but I waited to see where he was heading. I saw him enter into an apartment building; apparently, he is a resident there. Now, here is my question; what should I do? I have feelings for him now and I’m sure I do. I want him, but I dont know how to make it happen again. I’m not sure if it’s right for a lady to propose to a guy she loves πŸ™ˆπŸ™ˆπŸ™ˆπŸ™ˆπŸ™ˆ.....I just don’t know!!!”

Now to the house, what can she do or what do you think she did wrong? Let’s get Realwithkem

Friday, October 20, 2017

Sex LifeπŸ™ˆπŸ™ˆ

       “I never knew sex is important in a relationship. I have been starving my husband all this years of marriage. Also I guessed have been missing out on this great pleasure called ‘sex’. Wow! Hnmmmmm! I never knew individual's sex life can  suddenly change until it happened to me. 
You know!  Before now, all I ever felt whenever I have  sex was  pain. It is funny πŸ˜„, because I also believed sex is all about bearing children. Do you know something? Something strange is really happening to my system;  all of a sudden, I started having the urge for sex, always horny. Also, I never get satisfied when we make love, but I couldn’t tell him.  Guessed I have driven him away from me all this  years i have been a denier of sex. Believe me! This is serious, but I’m guessing maybe is due to my present age or hormonal changes (because I’m reaching menopause) or something in me is just awakened. I just don’t know what it is, all I know now is that I’m crazy about having sex now. Unfortunately, there is a big issue concerning my appetite for sex; I don’t know how to explain to my husband of 15 years in marriage  that my sex life has now changed. I don’t know what he will think of me.
I need your suggestions.”
Now to the house, I need you to please get Realwithkem and give the lady good suggestions. You can also send me messages if you do not want to be real on this forum.

Friday, October 13, 2017

Single ladies 😘

       “I am proud to be single because being single simple means being sophisticated, special, successful, strong, sweet and smart lady. 
It is always good to know you are a woman of your words and that is all being single is all about. I'll rather focus on the journey of life than to get distracted by people that want you for themselves. Life is what we made out of it. There is nothing actually named ‘problem’ until it's so labelled.  There is more to life than to force yourself to be loved.  Never get me wrong marriage is beautiful and same way being single is great because it will give you time to plan your life better and achieve your goals. 
Here is my reason for pouring out my mind, I never knew why Africans believe marriage is a do or die affair. Most women get married to satisfy their parents  or to have title- come on! Nothing is worth your happiness in life.  You deserve to rule your life just the way you want it. Is better to learn from your mistakes than to fall into others mistakes. Do you know why? If you make your mistakes, you can easily get back on track but if you fall into other people’s mistakes you can lose your track because is not your route. I wish ladies can just focus on their goals and happiness and then all other things will fall in place.”
Yeah! This is a single lady sharing her story, get Realwithkem and contribute fans!😜😜😜

Friday, October 6, 2017



        The best food you can feed  a relationship is to make your own decisions,then you will be able to deal with the outcome. Believe me, no one can give you the right medicine to sustain your relationship but you. You know why? Your friend loves you and she/he may not make a good judgement when it comes to your relationship just in the name of making you happy. Your family won’t want you to get hurt by anyone so they will always take your side if you let them know what you are going through with your partner. 
Here are somethings you can do to fix your relationship problems: You can talk to friends or family members you trusted but be very careful when narrating what happened between you and him/her. Do not give them the impression that you needed mercy or your partner is killing you. Just shift the blame on yourself at the beginning of narrating what happen between you and your partner. Then, listen to their responses and go stay calm to bring out what will work for you; remember to apply it  with patience and knowledge in order to get the best results. 
As you know, I value your contributions so just be Realwithkem!

Saturday, September 30, 2017

Relationship Spice


       Get away from me Satan! Wow! The Bible made me understand that my tongue πŸ‘… is empowered with authority and I should use it to declare success every time.  There is no place in the Bible I was told to use my tongue πŸ‘… for pleasure; so what is all this my spouse is requesting from me? I can never use the tongue I use in casting out demons to s**k, it's not possible. 
When I met my spouse, she was a strong born again Christian but now she is something else. She said her friends schooled her on the pleasure of s**king. My Sweetheart Taylor is now requesting that from me, come on! I'm a well known man of God. Now I'm concerned that my babe is pulling up attitude due to not meeting her request. I never thought she could turned to a new woman that wants to be su***d before she can enjoy sex. I need your advice because I'm thinking of opting out of the relationship and search for a good Christian sister. I need to make it to heaven and no woman will stop me due to worldly things. 
Now to the house, what do you think😜😜😜😜? Just get Realwithkem

Saturday, September 23, 2017

Unhappy Relationship

      "I will rather stay single than to be in an unhappy relationship. Yes! That's is just the truth of it. I have only one life to live and I also have my choices to make. Moreso, the will power to change my life is in my hands. I am the best person to give myself an advice because I know the truth and I can't lie to myself. So, why should I think of what people will say, people just say what others want to hear about you. Even your best friend can't feel you. The one thing I sometimes appreciate in people  is that, either in success or failure , somebody out there will always celebrate you. It is also true that even in success someone will still  cry you down. 
The good thing about failure is that, it  strengthens your inner self. 
Yeah! I understand is good to endure in a relationship but at what point does it become being endangered.
Men have opportunities for multiple trials when it comes to dating with no regards to age. Women are just precious mother, lovely and soft hearted human being that likes to respect the woman in them 😘😘😘😘. But still, in a relationship I come first, if I'm not happy in it then it not worth it. Yeah! The love we give to the community comes from our relationship. If we harbor bad relationship that makes us cry 😭 always, then we don't have love in us to give to the world. All we will have in us will be meanness , hatred and revenge. All this can eat up our soul. Bad relationship is just as bad as soul in a dead body.
Now back to my question, when is the good time to say no to endurance in a relationship?"
The lady needs your response, let's get RealwithKem!

Saturday, September 16, 2017

Time Bomb in Relationships

      Time bomb in a relationship is what everyone should watch out for. 
My lady is a caring and loving woman. Shelly is a mother and a wife to me. I am so lucky to experience the joy of love through her. I'm always at peace when I looked into her eyes. 
My sweetheart also has this comforting voice that keeps me calm whenever I'm restless. Do you know something? I'm kind of worried about our relationship. Shelly, the love of my life never has any complain about me since we have been married two years now. That scary to me because it seems not just possible. No relationship is perfect, there should be a misunderstanding of some sort . We are from different parents and raised indifferent environments as such we can never perfectly match each other. Hummmmmn, believe me, something is wrong somewhere. I'm thinking maybe Shelly is playing me or I'm the kind of person that never accept corrections and that makes her keep to herself. I just don't know, I need suggestions on what to do because I'm sure if I do not fix this, it could be a time bomb relationship  which if ignited may turn  disastrous. Yeah!!!

As usual, get Realwithkem and give the young man some suggestions.

Saturday, September 9, 2017

Messy Relationship

        "Why now? Yeah! I mean why is he doing this to me now, he should have done this long time ago. I truly love him with all my heart but I noticed I was just a giver of love but not a receiver. He never tells me he loves me, even for him to say it back; it's always an issue for him. We can do without talking to each other if I should ever complaine of him not showing me enough love. I regretted the day I gave my heart to him. I was just stupid because I should have noticed all this before having children with him but I was blinded with the gifts he used to give me and promises he made. My love life got worst that I was almost laid off from work then I decided to have a friend. Yeah! A boyfriend of cause; believe me I needed it because I was at the point of committing a suicide. My boyfriend gives me love and commitment, please don't judge me because I understand we all own our happiness and marriage is not the only thing that can give us happiness. At first, I just wanted to seek happiness from my boyfriend but I never knew I was slipping into loving him until when my husband started complaining that I have changed. I thought my husband will even get angry at me and opt out of the marriage but instead, he changed to a better person. Wow! Unbelievable, I never knew he had such an angelical part in him but it was too late. My husband just messed my life up because I'm kind being of in love with this new boyfriend. My husband refused to let go of me though and I'm confused because I just don't know what to do."
Now to the house, the young lady needs your opinions. Let's get RealwithKem!

Saturday, September 2, 2017

Other side of Love ❤️

    I used to wonder the exact time or second things change between lovers. Then,  love  suddenly turns to  hatred. That man/lady you can't do without turns to that person you do not want to see,hnmmmm; it is terrible because at the beginning of the journey (love), it always seems it should last forever and ever. 
Unfortunately, most of the time, not all that starts the race of love finish it. But there is one thing that is clear to me; 'True love lives forever.' Yeah! You being married to or separated from your lover do not define if it's  true love or not. 
You may have true & pure love for each other but  may not even have the opportunity to live together - things happen. The good thing is that you will definitely know if you truly love each other. You will feel and have the love for him/her even with his /her imperfections . You will not be able to try to get rid of his/her though from your memory even if you try.  Whenever you are lonely all you can think of is him/her. Do you know the funniest part? You may even get married or dating someone else but you still feel this old lover to the extent of remembering him/her when having intercourse with your new lover πŸ™ˆπŸ™ˆπŸ™ˆ. Hnmmm, tough! 😊😊, remembering or feeling that your old lover doesn't mean you are confused; it just human nature and the love is real. Here is my take on this; just enjoy every moment with whom you claim to be your lover because you never can predict what will happen in the next second. Is better to get stuck with the good memories of both of you than the sad ones. 
Back to my first paragraph; so, it is always good to stay calm and rethink if the love you have towards him/her was even real at first. If the love is real at first the table may not even turn around and if it does , the most that could happen is both to be either separated or divorced but not to wish each other hell. Let's watch out our journey of love.
😊😊let me rest my pen and welcome your contributions . Let's get Realwithkem!

Saturday, August 26, 2017

Mother and Wife

     It's a lot of work to be a wife and mother at the same time. Yeah! It is too much work but it is actually  worth it. It is the best way to keep your man under your shield. A mother knows how to protect her man, she knows when he feels pain and how to alleviate the pain. A mother can be upset with her husband but always knows when to stop. A mother carries pregnancy with joy and pain but she endures because she is waiting to see the outcome of the nine months course (pregnancy); just the same way a woman in a motherly reflection to her husband will endure and be strong to do what it takes to make a good man stays in her life because she knows the waiting will worth it at last. Now the wife part of a woman in a man's life will give him all the affection and  romance he ever needed. Most of all, making sex a new experience every time πŸ™ˆπŸ™ˆπŸ™ˆπŸ˜œ. 
What do you think fans? Let's get Realwithkem!

Saturday, August 19, 2017

The Door of Love

  It means a lot when you close the door behind you. Yeah! There are lots of commotions presently in that room; situations like arguments, screaming, weeping, regrets and so on. But, closing the door behind you may not resolve the commotions; it may only take your eyes off them for a short time. Closing the door can even cause you greater regret which may leads to loosing the love of your life. Yeah! Here is the deal! Relationship is one the best things that can ever happen to man and also may be one of the worse things that can also occur in a man's life. The good news is that  human beings have the Will  to decide and define the aspect of relationship they want to experience. Yeah! Shit happens in relationships but there are more disgusting shit out there. It is always good to weigh your opinions before you close the door of Love in your life. 
As always, I welcome your contribution. Let's get Realwithkem!

Saturday, August 12, 2017

Slave of Love

         It is difficult to escape, the more you try the more pain you experience; The iron chain around you seems getting tighter.  You feel like an affection and love inside you; unfortunately, the chain around you makes it seems you are enslaved.
Yeah! Sometimes you think you are in love but you are not; you are rather a slave of love. I accepted you love him/her and you want to do everything within your power to please your lover. At the beginning of wanting to please your lover, it always seem romantic but get saggy towards the middle or the end. It will get to a time you will sit and ruminate if you are doing too much for the relationship to work out and from that moment of thought, your relationship maybe in danger.  
Here is my take on this, no matter how your partner promises to meet all your  needs, do not over do it. He/she will definitely get tired as the relationship goes on. Another thing is when we are in love we promise heaven and earth which is okay, no harm; all you have to do is not to turn your partner into slave of love. Make life easy for him/her. The love gets stronger when both are less stress in life. It is good to be a promoter of love but not slave of love.
What do you think? Let's get Realwithkem.

Friday, August 4, 2017

Steps of Love

Most people want to be in love but never think of the proper steps to take into the paradise of love. Love is assumed to be a beautiful garden, that has comfort, peace and happiness in it. The garden of love can save you and can also lose you; it all depends of what you do to get into the garden. It is good to know what you want before falling in love; I meant knowing what you want in your woman/man. More importantly , be sure what you want in your partner is something you can handle. Also necessary to consider loving with your brain not your mind; because you need your brain to access your partner before accepting him/her into your heart. Last but not the least, always check your relationship to see if you or your partner needs adjustment to make the journey smooth. One thing you should have at the back of your mind is, if your garden of love is not giving you what you expected; just see if you can or cannot fix it. If not, give your soul happiness because you are the director of your own soul.
What do you think? Let's get Realwithkem!

Friday, July 28, 2017

Right Match

       She is a fair complexion lady, with  angelica voice. Her smiles invite joy into man's life. She walks elegantly and speaks like a professor πŸ‘¨‍🏫 that has lots to offer. Her appearance tells she will make a good wife and lover to proudly take around. Yeah! I guessed those are good qualities any man would wish to see in a woman. However, men never ask themselves one question, which is ; can I keep up with what builds up the qualities she has? To be honest with you, if men should ask themselves this question, majority of them will responded "NO." If you take a critical look at the qualities of the referred lady, all the qualities may invite threats into a relationship. The lady's lovely voice can call for men's attention. Most men will want her friendship due to her intelligence. Finally, remember the lady may wants to portray boldness which may be term as a pride. So, it is always good to take the "Steps to Love" as it follows;

    My next write up will be about 'Steps to Love.' 
What do you think fans? Let's get Realwithkem!

Friday, July 21, 2017

Decision & Relationship

      The pieces won't even come together. It feels deeply sad when you try to hold on to something in your relationship and it refuses to connect. Sometimes you  even think you could conjure happiness and peace into your relationship but it never works. Then happiness turns to sadness, love turns to hatred.  
Yeah! It is good to be married but unacceptable to trade happiness for marriage. All you have to do is to be honest with yourself in a relationship then you can decide what invites happiness into your life. It is good to endure in a relationship but not good to suffer in it. 
The key is that we owe ourselves happiness and we are the only one that can make it happen. 
The choice we make by ourselves is always the best one because we will be able to defend it at anytime. 
What do you think? Let's get

Friday, July 14, 2017

Insects 🐜 & Relationship

   Beautiful roses 🌹🌹🌹usually attract insects 🐜🐜🐜🐜 just the same way perfect relationship normally gets attraction from outsiders. Yeah! No relationship is perfect I agree but some couples put extra efforts to almost stay perfect. The unfortunate part is that, they forgot how beautiful flowers scent attract insects 🐜 which are the outsiders. I am sure, flowers will think all insects come with  good intentions but never; sometimes they infest and  suck out the good part of the flower. The may wither away in the process . Outsiders don't always have good aims for a good relationship especially if they see happiness in the relationship. Couples should always stay tight and make the bond unbreakable for outsiders.
Now to the houses, what do you think? Let's get Realwithkem!

Friday, July 7, 2017

True Love

        Finding a true love ❤ is like resuscitating the dead part of you. It also feels like a puzzle's piece that gets fixed in the right place at the right time. Everything seems perfect and rosy😘😘🌺. Really, the whole world will be just about both of you. Life seems interesting. Unfortunately, it can also be scary. Yeah! Because there are always two different things going on after you found love. First, what are you going to do with the love. Secondly, will the love last forever? Yeah! It may or may not. It's very difficult to find a true love and harder to maintain it. If you want good harvest, means you need extra effort to achieve your aims. Keeping a true love is very important because if you let go, you may not get it back. Most of the time, true love comes once in a life time. Now to the house?
What do you think? Let's get Realwithkem!

Friday, June 30, 2017

Changes in a Relationship

"Can this be true? Wow! This is not my lady anymore. You won't believe she changed to a different woman. My Shade was humble, respectful and caring. I wondered what happened to her. Do you think environment can change people's thinking? I don't think so. Shade  behaviors changed right after we relocate to England. Now she thinks I'm too authoritative. She even said I'm not showing her enough love. What is happening here? I'm losing my marriage. I do love her but all she does is complaining about everything. I spoke with Realwithkem and she said 'Yes, environment can change individual's thinking. Our brain builds itself with what goes on in the environment. So, you can't expect your woman to retain her original behavior after a change of an environment . Unless you both are still within the same culture practice then the way she sees things can stay the same. We all
have different culture in the world so here is what I advise; both parties should try to compromise.
Also the man should try to observe how ladies are being treated in their present environment; and then practice it in the name of peace in the relationship. The good thing is that, anytime we train ourselves to do the right thing, it is always a plus to our personalities. Finally! It is possible for anyone to change due to his/her environment.'
Now to the house, what do you think? Let's get Realwithkem!

Friday, June 23, 2017

Secrets in a Relationship

   "I don't think I'm asking for too much, all I want is honesty. Do you think is right to keep somethings from your lover in the name of love? Nope! That is what I will say. My angel means everything to me. She is my true love. I trust and believe her. I know everything about her as she knows about me. Believe me, I didn't know her well enough. One day, a message came through her phone and the message popped up on her screen. I saw the message and it was all about my soulmate signing some document concerning her property I knew nothing about. Wow! Unbelievable, I felt have been dating a stranger all this years. I was angry and I'm ready to quit the relationship, despite our wedding is a few months away. She said 'I'm sorry, didn't mean to hide something from you but I'm just seeking for a true love. I have been disappointed by men before and I need a serious one this time.' Nope! I'm not accepting that excuse from her. I thought we are best friends and we knew each other's secrets. Two years dating is enough for her to know if I'm serious or not 😑😑😑😑. Now to the house, what do you think? I need your opinions."
 Let's get Realwithkem!

Friday, June 16, 2017

Honesty in a Relationship

"Really frustrating and confusing 😑😑😑. I can't just understand this man, I don't really know what he wants from me. Yeah! I love him at first but I don't know about now because he lied to me. I was scared when I got pregnant for him. You know, owing to culture, I didn't want baby before marriage this time especially with the fact that already I have two children from different fathers. Nope!! Not this time. You won't believe he talked me into keeping the pregnancy that the marriage will be done before I have the baby. Yeah! He lied and it hurts 😭. I felt stupid that a man could manipulate me just like that. I made up my mind to send him off my life but he won't leave. This man will call me every time to check on us. This same man will do everything to help me out when I needed one but he refused to ask me to marry him. He said ' I don't want to be pushed around, let m
e make the decision myself. I'm still expecting some changes in you first.' This is serious, is this love or what? Fine, I told him ' Leave me and the baby alone. I don't want to see you again if you are refusing to ask me for marriage.' He is all over me and the baby. I'm not even sure if he has another woman because he always hides things from me. I even got accused by one of his ex or present girlfriend. Do you know something? I am confused, I need your opinions."
 Let's get RealwithKem!

Friday, June 9, 2017

Journey of Love

"Yup! I'm getting tired 😴, I thought falling in love ❤ should be rosy and comfy. It should be a ride that you don't want to return. Falling in love should be a Fall with your eyes closed, with a smile on your face as you slip down the journey of love. Yeah! I enjoyed the fall with my man, I never looked back and never even have the thought of stepping on a hard stone until I did. Then I looked backward and I saw that I have walked a long way on this journey of love with him. That is sad, is heart broken and killing. I don't know how to return to reality is just hard. Don't just say 'I can do it', believe me! You may never know, until you have been there before 😩😩😩. Here is Realwithkem take on this issue ' Never fall in love all by yourself. First make sure your partner is on your side falling with you. Second, always hold on to something like rails as you fall, meaning -don't make it a slip through; hold on to your brain and check yourself always. Lastly, always pause in-between and look back to see how far you have walked with your lover and not just by yourself. You won't go far if the journey of love is not meant for both of you if you practise all this keys I mentioned.' Hnmmmm, I never practised Realwithkem recipe when I was falling in love and now I'm hurt and only The Creator can heal me."
 Now to the house, what do you think? I will appreciate your contribution. Get real with Kem!

Friday, June 2, 2017

Bond & Relationship

"I can feel the affection within me, I do miss him when he is not there. I know he is very important to me and the good thing is that, he feels the same with me. But there is a big issue going on presently, despite all the love we have each other, we still argue a lot. For real, we never get along and I never know why until I spoke with Realwithkem, she says 'Some relationships lack Bond and this is one of the strongest strand that tie relationship & love together. Lovers should try saying some sexy words to each other. Always discuss about their sex life, the word 'I love you' should always comes out of their mouth. Appreciate each other and never hide feelings for each other. Have sex in different places in the house or outside your bed. All this are bonds that help relationships and it encourages lovers to miss one another at all time. It also renew lovers feeling towards one another.' After all what Realwithkem said, I then understand that my relationship is lacking Bond which I'm ready to pour in it." Now to the house, what do you think?

Monday, May 29, 2017

Personality & Love

"She will do anything for me. My lady knows my thoughts and always ahead of my plans. I love ❤ her with my soul. She stays hungry just for me to eat and awake so I can sleep. I thought this is what love should be all about until the day she looked into my eyes and said 'I am done with you.' The words she uttered on that day hurt me more than being stabbed with a knife because it was sharp and it went through my heart. I then came across one of Realwithkem's sayings: "There is a difference between personality and love in a relationship; In most cases it is easy to take one for the other. We all have our different personalities and we will definitely deposit it into our relationships. Sometimes we get lucky to meet a lover with some great personalities like being caring, submissiveness.  Unfortunately, we might consider all these personalities to be love, when they are not. Your partner can have all this good personalities without loving you. Don't get me wrong, he/she is not deceiving you because is just who she is. It is left to you to identify whether she loves you or just acting herself. How do you identify? Easy! Pay attention if she portrays the same personalities towards everyone, then you can identify she is just acting herself. Love is when you go extra mile to show your affection towards your lover; when you do something you won't do to everyone. So, lovers should pay attention to their relationships by not accepting personalities for love.'
Really! I'm just careless in this relationship. You won't believe why she left me. My lady said ' I'm thinking you maybe cheating on me' Believe me! I didn't do it, I truly love her."
Now to the house what do you think? Let's get real with Kem!



One of the most painful rejection is in romantic love. Unfortunately, most people tend to love those who aren't as passionate about them. We all know that rejection is number one fear among individuals. Also, one of the deepest needs of human beings is the need to belong and to be accepted. If we are rejected in one way or the other, we consider ourselves a failure.
If you can take a good look at the first paragraph, you noticed all of these just have to do with your thinking&brain. You make your brain do all these thinking for you and you can as well make it go away. You have the will power to wish things away. If you find yourself in this situation of being rejected; first, use self hypnosis which helps to access unconscious mind and shape it in ways you wanted it to be.
Other things you can do are; make new friends, make yourself feel good, tell yourself you are valuable and you can get someone better.
Finally, if anyone rejected you, do not reject yourself because you are the most beautiful being on earth.
Now to the house, what do you think? Let's get real with Kem!


I believed dreams come true, because mine did when I met you, my love. I will love you till the stars go out and the tides no longer turn. Your voice makes my world full of smiles. I understand true love comes once in a lifetime and I know you are the one for me. I am happy to offer you all of me today and for always." Yeah! Just exactly what woman wants to hear from her admirer. Do you know what? It depends on when those words come to you. I don't think those words should be said on the first date. If you are fortunate to hear the words from him on that first date (which makes the words unreal),I will suggest you should just enjoy and let the sweet words heal your soul. But, if those words come to you as the journey of love goes on, then you may give it a thought. Finally, if the words come to you at the time both of you are going through some difficulties in the relationship, please try to believe him and make it possible for him to fulfill his promise. Now to the house, do you think it real when lovers express their love towards each other in time of difficulties?

Wrong Turn

      Each step forward gives me hope, assurance, and something to live for. Unfortunately, it is difficult to keep taking the steps. I ca...