“He won’t stop nagging, he just won’t stop 😡😡, we are both angry here. I feel like I'm just making it worse and I’m sure he's feeling the same way. No! I’m the one hurting not him, why won’t he hear me out. I feel like I am in an oven right now and I just need some air or else I will stop breathing. Wait a minute! Why is he getting closer to me? Is he going to hit me or what? Oh! I think I’m freaking out right now". Oh my goodness! I was wrong, he said ‘babe! you are bleeding.’ My nerves got weakened immediately and I starred at him with tears rolling down my cheeks. I cried because I thought he didn’t love me anymore, I thought it was over between us. Then I realized he truly loved me and not an obsession; You know what, these are like two identical twins with different characters. Obsession is an affection or feelings you have towards a person at the time he/she is in your possession; Love is an affection or feelings you have within you to a person without any conditions. Yeah! Real talk, obsession will show you love and make you comfortable because he knows you must survive to be useful for him. You must survive to take care of the children or to take care of him if he is sick, he then believes he can scold you and even hit you if he gets angry at you. Love in the other hands will prefer to hurt himself in the name of anger then to hurt you. Elements of love will definitely pop up during an argument or bad times in a relationship. You can figure it out if he loves you or he just think he owns you. If he loves you, he will cherish and adore you which means he will sacrifice whatever it takes to make you stay in his heart. Both Love and Obsession can be confusing to the extent of an individual not being able to differentiate if they love or own their partners .” Yup! That’s it, what do you think? Realwithkem!
Friday, February 9, 2018
“I’m glad I have the strong voice to make things happen, you know is a lot of work to be a man. Taking charge is always the priority of a man, one never think of going to a party or hanging out with friends at the beach. A man gives order and makes things happen which makes it important for a man to seek for perfection. Unfortunately, I am not a man but a woman built with elements of a man. Yeah! I remember my daddy always had dialogues with me as a friend. Being the first child of the family, I was brought up like a man which is a good thing in one way but makes it difficult to hold a man down. Do you know why is tough to be a wife when you are brought up to have some characteristics of a man? Gender roles play a huge part in some marriages and it is sad because it destroys marriages. When you met her, I’m sure you loved her which makes you accept her as a whole; why then, do you think you can change her? You can’t! She was built to face the world and conquer. It doesn’t matter who take charge but it is important to get things done as a couple. Let’s slow down on gender roles in our marriages because you are both raised in different ways and homes. Do not get me wrong, it is good for a woman to be submissive to her husband but still, you both can reach a compromise to maintain peaceful and happy relationship/marriage.”
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Tuesday, February 6, 2018
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Friday, February 2, 2018
“I will prefer my girl to propose to me and even buy the ring, it is just the right thing to do. This is what I noticed ladies do, they are very quick at throwing back the ring at their men when they are upset, I’m sure mine won’t do that if she bought the ring with her money which means she owns it.”
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